10 Reasons Guys Don't Get More Sex (in no particular order)

• Whining about it/the lack of it (vs. talking about our needs)
• Playing it "cool" to see if she will initiate it (vs. initiating it lovingly without worry about rejection)
• Acting hurt, hoping for her to "make it right" (vs. moving on and being loving and cheerful)
• Not asking directly for what we want (vs. speaking up for ourselves)
• Complaining about what she has done/not done lately (vs. requesting something different)
• Waiting till bedtime to initiate affection (vs. demonstrating affection early/late)
• Answering in one word answers or grunts and groans (vs. engaging in meaningful conversation with her)
• Making sex a "project" to be completed perfectly (vs. allowing it to unfold based on each other's appetite)
• Skipping the relaxed conversation/"I love you" kind of chat (vs. taking the time to learn about HER and HER feelings)
• Yelling at the kids (vs. mutually deciding on discipline)

Remember: demonstrating your feelings of rejection is not a strategy nor is "wishing and hoping"...put the ego away and enjoy her!

Are you brave enough to talk about this list with your partner?

 

Jerry Hancock, Executive Director of Men In Balance, Inc.