Survey Results

Men in Balance Survey Results

Work

7/12/07

I tend to work more hours than my job requires.

54%

I work more than 40 hours a week because my job requires it.

63%

I am able to control my work hours and generally work 40 hours a week or less.

26%

My work causes me to miss family events.

30%

I get a great deal of satisfaction from my work even though it requires long hours.

73%

The primary reason I work hard is to maintain or improve our standard of living.

52%

I feel a great deal of pressure to provide well for my family.

67%

I have a strong sense of identity with my job.

83%

I have had conflicts with my spouse over the number of hours I work.

26%

I sometimes bring the frustrations of work home with me.

67%

I am able to forget about work once I am home with my family.

46%

My partner understands the work commitments required of me and is supportive.

78%

I would rather work fewer hours and make less money.

23%

I sometimes get so absorbed in my work I forget about the time.

66%

I have received promotions which required a substantially larger amount of my time.

32%

I am able to go on vacation or weekend trips and forget about work.

64%

I tend to check my voicemail or email when I am with my family.

50%

I am aware that work takes time away from my family but I don't feel I have a choice.

39%

I have turned down promotions in order to have more time with my family.

29%

If I am honest with myself, I am a workaholic.

33%

My work and personal life are in balance, more or less.

79%

I have no real hobbies which occupy my time.

28%

I feel a lot of pressure to increase my family’s standard of living.

42%

I have no one I can really talk to about work demands.

17%

I miss being able to take more time with my family.

44%

Frequently I am too tired to really enjoy downtime or family time.

39%

Connection

I have no close male friends with whom I can talk openly about personal issues.

28%

I sometimes feel isolated about my personal life.

45%

I can talk openly with my partner about almost everything.

78%

My partner understands me and is supportive.

88%

I would like to be in a small group of men with whom I could share my thoughts and feelings.

48%

I would like to be more able to open up and talk with other men about personal issues.

53%

Most people would probably say I am a "private" person and do not talk much about personal issues.

50%

I have 5 or more "good friends" with whom I can be myself.

57%

Communication

My partner and I communicate well with few problems.

65%

My partner would like me to talk more.

55%

I do not enjoy talking to my partner about our relationship.

23%

I have concerns about my marriage/relationship I have not shared with my partner.

28%

I can sense when my partner has a concern and invite a discussion.

88%

There are a number of issues my partner and I simply cannot discuss.

20%

My partner does not understand the many pressures I am under.

30%

I enjoy "quiet communion time" with my partner.

83%

My partner and I talk at least a few minutes each day about things other than "logistics and schedules".

77%

I do not have problems communicating at work, but I do at home.

21%

I am difficult to communicate with at home.

15%

I sometimes do not treat my partner very well.

45%

I tend to avoid conflict in close relationships.

55%

My partner and I can discuss differences calmly and come to agreement.

75%

My partner and I are in agreement about most family issues.

80%

Personal Intimacy

My partner and I have a rewarding, close relationship.

80%

I wish my partner were more supportive of me.

29%

I have a satisfying sex life with my partner.

51%

I consider my partner to also be a best friend with whom I can talk freely.

90%

I have lost the enthusiasm for my relationship with my partner.

13%

I would like to be able to open up more with my partner.

48%

My partner has suggested counseling but I have resisted.

0%

I enjoy sex and rarely, if ever, have difficulty in this area. 

60%

I have never had an affair or cheated on my partner. 

79%

I would like more conversation with my partner.

46%

I don’t feel I know how to have a productive conversation with my partner on sensitive issues.

23%

I sometimes am critical of my partner around others.

15%

I would like more sex from my partner.

64%

I almost never miss family activities and I am fully present when participating.

76%

Family life

Our family typically has at least one meal together.

73%

My children openly share their feelings and concerns.

67%

I can be a "best friend" to my children and listen without offering advice or judgment.

60%

Our family frequently does things together (other than meals).

81%

I am disappointed in the amount of together time in my family.

33%

My children would say I am very involved in their lives.

71%

My children are involved in church activities other than worship.

53%

I make sure my children are in church almost every week.

43%

Our family has regular devotions or prayer.

44%

I am viewed by my family as a strong spiritual leader.

59%

My children enjoy family time together.

83%

My partner and I are in agreement about issues involving children including discipline.

69%

I wish I could communicate better with my children.

35%

My children would say I criticize them a lot.

15%

My family members talk openly about issues that are bothering them.

76%

Spiritual

My spiritual life is satisfying.

81%

I have a strong faith relationship with God. 

81%

I pray regularly (at least weekly). 

81%

I am involved in at least one organization that helps others. 

81%

I attend church/worship regularly.

78%

I am actively involved in some church activity other than attending worship.

76%

I usually make time for regular church attendance.

78%

Personal

I do not have a problem with drugs (including alcohol), pornography, or womanizing.

84%

I have no serious "dark side" that I would never want exposed. 

76%

I have friends who trust me to listen without judgment when they are having problems.

89%

I am comfortable talking with other men about my personal life, beliefs. 

75%

I have made serious attempts to work on my own "issues" through counseling or self-study.

72%

I believe men should be able to handle problems on their own without resorting to counseling or coaching.

19%

I feel I have some unfinished business with my father (living or dead).

35%

My father provided an excellent role model for my life.

59%

My father was absent (emotionally or physically) or critical of me.

51%

I take good care of my health and have regular check-ups.

89%